Vocal Empowerment Blog: It’s OK to Come Out Now

To get the most out of life, you have to engage your will. 

It’s like climbing a REALLY BIG mountain.

The art is to climb it with ease and joy.

To go your own pace.

To do it your way.

To feel the ground under your feet.

To take time to dip in the stream.

To take time to enjoy the wild flowers in the height of their summer glory.

To take time to hear what the present moment is whispering in your ear…

Living in Boulder, Colorado, one out of every five clients or so tells me: “My 5th Chakra is blocked.”

“How do you experience that?” I say. “How does it show up in your body?” It includes tension and constriction in the throat, feeling the voice is restricted or squeezed, fear about speaking up in relationships, fear of being big and taking up space.

It is common, that our voices and our throats feel tense and blocked. They are doing their best to protect us, to help us manage our pain. HOLDING ON is the body’s way of keeping us safe.

In reading up on Chakras, Caroline Myss, medical intuitive, describes the 5th Chakra or Throat Chakra, as the center of our willpower.

What exactly is Willpower?:

The faculty by which a person decides on and initiates action. Strong determination that allows you to do something difficult.

Other names for Willpower include…Commitment, Doggedness, Tenacity, Staying power

As a body-centered therapist, it’s my job to help you to heal your wounds, to move through them. It’s my job to let your body know that it’s safe. And to let your voice know that it’s OK to come out now. It’s my job to help you UN-BLOCK your 5th Chakra, so that you can engage your willpower, so that you can happily climb the mountain of life.

Our throat, where the vocal cords are located, is the channel between our head and our heart. How often do these two agree? No wonder everyone’s 5th Chakra is blocked! This is where it all goes down!  Where push comes to shove!

I want to help you open this channel, to make peace between your head and your heart, so your voice is FREE TO MOVE out into the world.

As you open your voice, you build the muscle that is doggedly committed to being and expressing who you truly are. You build the muscle that gives you staying power, so that you can take action and share your gifts with the world.

Tell yourself from me to you, “It’s OK to come out now.” And see what happens next. My body breathes a sigh of relief.

Vocal Empowerment Blog: Go Ahead and Close That Door!

It sounds ridiculous. But one day, I realized that whenever I went for a pee, (in my own home of course!), I would leave the bathroom door ajar.

I truly believe that I got into the habit of doing it to accommodate other people’s needs. “I’m just peeing. I’m still available if you need me!”

So, when I came to this stunning realization, I boldly did it…I closed the door. Radical, I know! CLICK! 

I’m embarrassed to say that I felt like I was being rude. There was a disgruntled voice in my head saying…“Are you sure about this? But you’re shutting people out. You’re not available if you shut the door!”

To my surprise, right on its heal came a big sense of relief.

Ahhh. For a couple of minutes, I can simply relax. I don’t have to be ON for anyone else. It’s just me. I can do whatever I want! I can take a few breaths. Hum a few bars. Take a moment to ponder what’s next.

I give you permission to CLOSE ANY DOOR! To the bathroom, to your office, to the bedroom. You get the idea.

I know it sounds silly and insignificant, but if you’re peeing with the door ajar, I say Close It and see what happens next. You might be surprised at how such a small action can have a big impact on your peace of mind.

Vocal Empowerment Blog: The Power of Breathing

The great thing then, in all education, is to make our nervous system our ally as opposed to our enemy.”

(William James, circa 1857.)

I know it’s a stretch to add any new practice into our lives. But what is more fundamental than how we breathe? Regulating how we breathe can have a HUGE impact on trauma, mood states, chronic pain and stress.

I’m doing a new breathing practice that I’d like to share with you. It’s called Coherence Breathing. The exciting thing is that Coherence Breathing is specifically focused on increased circulation and autonomic nervous system balance.

These tools and methods are the result of a breakthrough in the understanding of the subtle relationships between breathing, circulation, autonomic governance, and heart rate.” (Stephen Elliott)

The good news is that it’s very simple to do! And by the way, I almost always do it lying down. Sometimes I have my feet and lower legs up, resting on a chair.

I’ll share a few links here so that you can check it out for yourselves.

The Coherence website: http://www.coherence.com

The CD that has the actual breathing practice on it, is called Respire 1. My favorite practice is called Coherence Breathing 2 Bells.

And finally, a good read: Healing Power Of The Breath by Drs. Richard Brown & Patricia Gerbarg

This book is replete with essential breathing practices including Coherent Breathing…It offers compelling case examples where breathing methods were employed to mitigate stress and negative emotion, sleep difficulty, phobias, anxiety, PTSD, …The book includes a CD presenting 8 breathing practices.”

I hope you’ll give it a try. Changing the way we breathe can change our lives because it broadens our capacity to handle stress and overwhelm. What could be better?