You can imagine that really clarified things!
Clients often say to me; “I have to override a part of myself to function in my life, and I can’t do it anymore. I want to get connected to my authentic self and live my life from there. Can you help me do that?”
OVERRIDE: to prevail or have dominance over; overrule
For years, I performed as a professional singer, and I flat out ignored all of the following truths:
- I dreaded the upcoming performances for weeks
- I felt like I was going to the guillotine
- I made my husband miserable with my intense anxiety and self-doubt
- I shook like a leaf on stage under my gown
The part of me that loved to sing and loved the excitement of performing held sway over the part of myself that was utterly terrified. Continue reading
I’m so relieved your voicemail picked up. I wanted to sing Happy Birthday to you but I didn’t want to actually sing it TO YOU!
Why not? What’s the big deal?
A machine won’t judge me or say anything weird in response, but it’s not going to take in the beauty of my song or the message of love either. Like it or not, that’s exactly what puts me at ease. There’s no human response at all!
For someone with a sensitive or traumatized nervous system, standing in your power, speaking your truth or singing your song is downright terrifying. It is an act of courage, a bid for power. Continue reading
What’s in the way?
Some deep seated beliefs like…
- I’ll make a fool of myself.
- I have to be nice and pleasing to be loved.
- What I have to say isn’t important.
These and many other beliefs that we carry from our early life experience, stand in our way when we are moved to speak.
It takes Courage to stand up to these long held beliefs and Speak Up Anyway!
Looking through a trauma lens helps us to understand how the body gets in the way of speaking up. Continue reading